The dating scene can be a nightmare for singles and with the added layer of the COVID-19 pandemic, things aren’t getting any easier.
It was not long ago that a shared belief in God and country, as well as a desire for a large family was all it took to bring two couples together harmoniously. But those are gone. Long-term:Â gone. The stakes are higher now. After centuries of oppression, women have gained the right to vote and the culture is obsessed with allowing people from all backgrounds to pursue happiness in a miserable way.
Not every American is ready to embrace the new progressive movements that are sweeping the United States. Some are more worried about preserving the old standards set by our forefathers rather than demonstrating common sense, civility and honor. Depending on the personalities of each person, any attraction that two people have can turn into a disaster when their opposing opinions on sensitive subjects are revealed.
It’s true that marijuana can drag the best-intentioned couples into the Shakespearian rabbit holes of star crossed lovers.
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Although a majority of Americans now support the concept of legal weed, that doesn’t mean everyone out there on Tinder, Match and other love connection sites are eager to date, build a life or even have a one-night-stand with someone with an affinity for cannabis. There are still stigmas attached to cannabis, so a large portion of people still have a negative view.
Cannabis is still associated in some instances with drug culture. So even if a person understands that marijuana is safer than alcohol and that it has therapeutic benefits — hell, they may also feel strongly about criminal justice reform and be in favor of decriminalizing it at the federal level — they still may never be happy about having a sheet-soaking love affair with someone who gets high.
In late night searches, you may see the phrase “druggies do not apply” or “potheads will swipe left.” This level of openness is great for cannabis consumers. We swipe left! There are those who are adamant marijuana users and proudly stamp “420 friendly” or other green phrases on their profile to show others that they too are a doobie. But most people seem determined to keep that information hidden until the appropriate time.
Like abortion, homosexual marriage, or Kid Rock’s love, marijuana remains a topic that is often left until the second date. During an initial meeting, a person may be eager to mention that they enjoy a “cocktail from time to time” or even share their taste in music. However, few people are going to admit their pot-loving passion. If they don’t connect with someone who shares their same passion, it can be difficult to gauge a person’s lifestyle. Because most people still feel the need to hide their marijuana use from others, they may be reluctant to share this information.
Reports have recently surfaced that suggest it is possible to maintain a relationship between cannabis users, and those not using marijuana. The user only needs to convince their non-user partner that marijuana hasn’t made them a stoner who is non-productive and burnt out with little to contribute to civil society. The article suggests that the marijuana consumer should come clean as soon as possible about their use, engaging in an open dialogue with their non-using partner in an attempt to assure them that weed has enhanced their lives rather than contribute to their degeneration.
This can be tricky.
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Sincerity is always the best course of action, particularly if you are interested in taking the relationship further. You must understand, however, that there are many possible outcomes to this discussion. It’s possible that you will never meet your date again if they are offended. For the occasional hookup, we’re not sure if it is important to approach a situation in a way that portrays integrity. It is better to give less information in this situation. It is important to tell the truth about marijuana usage only if there’s chemistry between you and your partner, or if they want to see each other naked regularly.
We are unfortunately not optimistic that this tiny bit of morality can lead to an end of peace between two individuals who hold opposing opinions on marijuana use. Marijuana is not precisely the same deal-breaking construct as being a Trump supporter (or vice versa), but it is still in the same ballpark. Many people are in favor of legalizing marijuana, but they’re not ready to commit long-term (or temporary) relationships with cannabis users. This is a very hypocritical position, yet it doesn’t mean it’s not real. People still drink alcohol in front their kids, but they keep their marijuana use hidden from them. Before this can change, legal marijuana needs to mature more and be socially accepted.
If cannabis is and will always be an important part of your daily life, we recommend that you only enter relationships with those who share your views. This certainly won’t ensure that you’ll live happily ever after — it is a relationship, after all — but it might keep you from wasting too much time on the wrong person. Seek out cannabis-friendly dating sites. Some dating websites are worth the time. You could also use the same sneaky method that boozehounds have been using for years: hide the alcohol from your partner and pray for the best.
Hey, this is your life. It’s your life. We are just here to make it easier and more enjoyable for you. You’re lucky if you get lucky.
Be loved and go forth!
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